Married Man, female friends?

My husband is constantly making new female friends. Although I don't approve, he does the "friend" thing anyway behind my back. He is also a compulsive liar, and the only way he will tell the truth is if I can prove that he lied. So I find myself trying to find proof, but I look like such a fool in the process. Then he tells these women how I feel about them being "friends", and they use that to there advantage by manipulating him and the situation. These women do not have any respect for me, and neither does he. He acts like he doesn't even see whats going on, nor does he care about what's going on. It's like he has to have the attention from other women just to feel complete. I don't try to compete for him because I shouldn't have to, we are married. I mean these women see us out together, and hold a full conversation with him without even acknowledging me. I blame both him and them for such disrespect, and thats just a minor situation. There have been way worse. I thought that after marriage the game playing was over, but now I realize it's just a different game. It's the "Let's Make His Wife Jealous Game", and he is Player 1. It's to the point where I am willing to accept the female friends if he would just stop lying, but that makes me feel like I am backing away from what I truly believe in. I thought that "forsaking yourself for all others" meant physically and emotionally, and that all other relationships were secondary. Instead I feel like the person thats coming second. It's like they all have an inside joke, and it's on me. Any advice?